Stage and Life is a ring for you?
Rivalry is always a game between Feeling and Perceiving.
In my life, unfortunately, it was also often accompanied by anger, which always led to bad decisions. Therefore, after taking the whole garment of rivalry apart, I was able to understand more precisely where it was coming from. In essence,
I changed the strategy of my internal battles. This contributed to rebuilding my relationship with myself and the outside world.
I CONCURRED because I was "little"
As we know, every action is first created in childhood and then nurtured. In addition, when one is mentally weak and does not have strong and righteous authorities around, one easily succumbs to the programming of the mind. From the breaking of small rules, unconscious events, win-lose situations, idealisation of someone or something, lack of letting go, beauty that has been criticised to even expressions of fanaticism. In such a place, I began to judge others with ease. Without knowing them or their intentions or understanding, I hastily attached certain labels.
After accumulated lessons, many trials and a general experience, I finally understood all the messages of life. At first, I was afraid of their overtones and ideas, but the truth always pierces through a person. Therefore, when I gave myself over to the inner guidance towards love and truth, all the conclusions began to come in a warm light with peace of mind. With clear thoughts I can now feel the whole world in every moment.
I feel that forbearance works better than criticism. Yes there is a right to have constructive criticism, but mistakes are part and parcel of a healthy learning process.
I feel that it is better to plan rational outlets than to complain about anything and anyone that produces nothing. Whining tires you out and takes away your agility. The world will always continue to be the same, so it's better to spend time wisely to make changes.
I feel it is better to be quiet at any given time than to speak up. Sometimes a pause can give me more from life than
a discussion.
I feel that true self-esteem is built on one's individual passions. Material things are just extras in the journey that is life. They can be lost, while the skills, knowledge and relationship with my inner self will stay with me forever.
I feel that I come out better when I compare myself only to myself from the past than to others who are even masters. The high quality and workshop of others only serve to inspire and motivate me to continue to work
and educate myself.
I feel that it is better to only estimate certain risks than to enter into black scenarios. Thanks to this, anxiety has fled.
I feel that when I invest my time in long-term activities and things then it all comes back to me in deep-seated value. Quick pleasure is only addictive and very shallow.
SOLUTION - ALWAYS CONSTRUCTIVE
Competition has always accompanied man as an element of social life. However, with economic progress has also come psychological progress. Thanks to it, it can be understood that if we already want to compete and use this aspect as
a driving force for our development, one should choose the option of constructive competition. Unlike the destructive model, which focuses solely on gaining advantage and dominance, the constructive one brings mutual development. Regardless of the gain or failure that occurs during competition, each party can still benefit from the experience. The message is simple, to always take and carry forward the learning from any situation. As a result, everyone can create an individual management tool that motivates in the future during any work.
I COMPARED because I couldn't find my value
When I compared myself to other musicians, vocalists, I was only inviting hurt into my life and competition. I was used to a world where someone was constantly losing or winning. In extreme cases, someone was winning at the expense of another. This, however, does not have to happen. I began to be like a brother to everyone, thus bringing a new grain of truth into their lives. A shared learning was born through this, which strengthened the common, mutual and continuous inspiration. Observation of choices and qualities became the meaning and priority of daily life. A common language rose to noble heights. Suddenly there was curiosity without copying certain behaviours.
As I regained self-worth, the easy solutions of copying disappeared. As a result, my belief in inner power grew. If something in someone caught my attention, then I merely absorbed it to find it in myself and my life.
I stopped judging in advance that something was not suitable for me. I taste it, I try it, if it works with positively healthy results then I initiate it into my methodology and practice it. I know that every exercise can bring something new to my education. It is an endless journey, not only towards new places in the world but towards my true self.
Integrating myself, integrating the world
C O M M U N I C A T I O N
This is fundamental in creation. Once
I create I don't really know and I don't know the final outcome.
The groundwork in understanding human collaboration was to come to a harmony between My Heart and My Mind. I was taught that in life, some things need to come out from the heart and some from the mind. Through this I was becoming a computerised analysis of everything. Only the mind or the heart had
a place in any given moment. The lack of synergy was distorting the perception of reality in its entirety. Hence, I wanted to end the battle between the two for the throne. I went first from agreement through consensus to cooperation.
The power of harmony always lies precisely
in connection and unity. Therefore, there was
a balance. At the same time, my intuition was awakened, which automatically knew how many percentages to use of which one. The combination gave me new possibilities.
Like a child who delights in the smallest thing around him, I could explore the world anew. From there, a subtler feeling showed me what, for example, a particular emotion was doing to me, so what it could also do to others. I fell in love with the state of coherence of feeling and thinking. At the same time, I appreciated the taste of this new experience so much that I no longer want to dine in inferior cuisine. I became a connoisseur of the taste and quality of present life. When I achieved unity in this combination, I was able to extend my hand for cooperation outside with a genuine smile. The order in life is very important. First I took care of my inner self. Then I naturally contributed to the blossoming of the fruit. Then, through this, I reaped a beautiful harvest so that I could move on to the next level which is sharing and helping.
and while BEING ON THE STAGE . . .
I am fulfilled because I have put my mind to working together, training myself and my music band friends.
I have suspended all weapons in the face of internal and external struggle. A person can win a lot of fights, but they won't get themselves back in it. That's why I allowed myself to feel any weaknesses and share it with others, because it made me authentic in addition. Being a victim and a fighter has gone.
I remember that I want to be 100 % just myself here. No pretence, no imitating someone else's vocal technique
or timbre, no being a clown.
The most important celebration has become my sensitivity and feelings.
I also look at myself from the side to see if I am sure I represent what I really want to convey to the world.
I remind myself what my reason for going on stage is.
I know that this is MY place, not that I am just in a place right now.
I want to gain attention with my head held high.
I am no longer afraid of being whistled at, so the self-destructive expressions in my thoughts have also disappeared.
I remind myself that I no longer have any fears, so all extortion is forgotten.
I remind myself that I no longer have to prove anything to anyone. I can only prove something to myself.
I remind myself that since I can now give myself everything I need, all that remains is to share beauty and a moment of attentiveness with the audience in the audience.
I remind myself that the stage only provides me with opportunities to reach the audience, not to complement
and feed my ego.
I am with and for Myself at all times, and thus this love emits to the audience.
I don't wait for the lights to take me out of the darkness, because I turn them on in my inner self. My inner stage of life shines with the radiance of truth and love, so now the spotlights only serve as my allies so that I can shine even brighter.
I H E L P others, so I become great
Since I always say what I feel, others don't have to guess anything. Everything has become clear and true. A pleasant security hangs in the air during a conversation because no one has to look for unknowns anymore. Rationality and understanding have displaced excessive emotionality. A balance has come about, so that there is no element of unnecessary screwing up. I am able to have fun and enjoy the smallest things and moments in my life. Reality has become my most loved game, from which I no longer want to return to virtual 'artificial worlds'. By respecting my boundaries,
I started to feel more respect from other people. By letting go of the need to constantly prove myself, a great space for new thoughts and experiences was born. Being in the now, current facts mattered, without reacting emotionally based on past associations. Responsibility became a guardian over every risk, to apologise in moments of possible mistakes. I destroyed the stereotypes anchored in my mind. This gave birth to a greater willingness to understand everything for which I did not have enough patience before. Towards a constant balance came flexibility. From then on, I was able to find my way through the harder and easier challenges of private and professional life at any and professional life at any time.
❤ As a result of all this, it has become effective and able to share the knowledge gained
with others and a great desire to teach further generations ❤
Now, as a Vocal Instructor, I teach and demonstrate:
How to sing Yourself out without competition.
That it is not worth getting into a fight
To not worry about your inner house, that perhaps it is inferior to others
How and why to accept Self.
How to let go of the fear of acknowledging Self.
That everyone is unique in their uniqueness. You only need to make the right space to find it.
That it's worth comparing different natures because every part is unique. The same with the voice, everyone has
the natural potential to mature into their noble colour.
It's worth abandoning schemes like: "the best vocal method is just...", "In singing, the most important thing is...",
"The best male and female voice has...", "The correct sound should be..."
That you have the right and should think for yourself.
That you are responsible for your choices.
That nothing is a command, only a suggestion from the world.
That tastes vary, you don't always have to be accepted by everyone.
That it's not worth turning yourself into someone else when people don't like what you present.
That it's worth it to always be there for you, to stand by your own, to use your true voice without modulation.
That you don't need to look outside for confirmation of your inner feelings.
That you already have everything within you, you only need to cultivate a relationship with yourself.
How to find your pace of development, without racing against the outside world.
That your life is also your Voice, so look after it in the same way.
